Dealing With Rejection

Rejection: the dismissing or refusal of a proposal, idea, etc. Quite a broad definition wouldn't you agree? Rejection can come in many different ways, whether its a job you didn't get or getting over a break up, its an inevitable part of life. It's universal and we all go through it at some time or another. Its a direct blow to the ego and its not fun its painful. My most recent form of rejection was from a job I didn't get. This was really recent, it was yesterday. Most of the time you can tell straight away how the conversation is going to go. Call it an inkling, and then you just wait for the inevitable words "I'm sorry but on this occasion you were unsuccessful". Then come the rush of emotions and thoughts which range from 'I knew it' to 'what was the point?'. Such a rush of emotions that you don't know how to deal with it at first, mine resulted in anger I was in a bad mood all day. That did not help. It got me thinking about how to deal with rejection? We all go through it and even though the scenario may be different, the thoughts and feelings may be the same. The feelings of hurt, disappointment, anger and even feeling like a failure are all normal.

Don't take it so personally- This may sound silly if its a bad break up your going through, I mean how can you not take it personally? We suffer rejection because we feel emotionally attached, if there were no feelings it wouldn't hurt as much. Most of the time the rejection may come from no fault of our own, we don't know what goes through peoples heads or why they make certain decisions. So don't think it was all your fault or something you did. For example, with my job rejection, I'll never know exactly what the other candidate said to make the recruiter choose them, or what made them make their decision.

Wasn't the right fit- This really comes from actors and auditions, they go on many auditions and are often told they are not the right fit for the role. When it comes to job rejection I try and keep this in mind. Sometimes we are not the right fit or right person, again we probably won't know exactly why but try not to dwell on it too much. There the one's who are really missing out, not knowing how amazing we are.

Timing- Try and think of the bigger picture, there may be something better waiting for you. The timing might not be right now. We may find out the reasons for rejection later in time, we'll know the purpose of pain in due time.

You've done it before- Since we've been children there have been feelings of rejection. Sure they may be on a smaller scale but we've all been through it before. Its not the first or last time you will feel like this but you've beaten it before and came out stronger.

Chance to learn- Use this situation as a chance to learn and evolve. If it was a bad interview think about how and what you can do differently and work on for next time. Every experience is a chance to learn.

Mental cleansing- Am I the only one who thinks that when your in the shower, there's a mental cleansing that happens? I'm one of those people who when in the shower my brain rushes from subject to subject. Whilst washing my hair I run through in my mind some of the things that I'm going through and almost use it as a way to wash away negativity. Afterwards I always feel better and ready to take on the world.

All this may not be what you want to hear when your in the eye of the storm and feeling crappy, but take the time to feel how your feeling and remember you will be fine.

What are some of the best ways you've dealt with rejection? Leave some of your tips in the comments and we can all help each other.

Love at First... Swatch? Diorskin Nude BB Cream

Fuss free make-up, skin like finish and dewy-ish complexion are all things I look for in a base. I've mentioned before that I don't tend to jump on a product hype straight away. I like to wait a while and slowly make my mind up. This Dior BB cream has been on top of my wish list since THAT Lisa Eldridge video. I'm not even going to mention how many times I've watched that video and analysed how beautifully the BB cream applied. Eventually I caved, I couldn't wait any longer and it had to be mine.

My Precious-  Diorskin Nude BB Cream
I'm a hard critic to impress when it comes to bases like these. I usually find they are not anything to write home about. However, as soon as I had a play with this beauty my mind was changed. From the first swatch I knew this was a game changer. The finish this BB cream creates is dewy yet skin like, it makes me look a bit more alive and fresh after not much sleep. Its applies beautifully, best with fingers, and it doesn't start off looking grey on the skin like most BB creams do. Dior promises that this BB cream "corrects and hydrates skin" which it indeed does without feeling heavy. If you prefer a light to medium base, this is for you. Most days I wear just this, a bit of concealer (damn you dark circles), mascara and I'm good to go. Although this does include some skincare benefits I'd probably still place in under the tinted moisturiser category.

I was initially impressed that for a BB cream it does come in three colours unlike others I have tried which only come in one shade (Dr. Jart I'm looking at you). I would prefer it if they did introduce some more shades, as 003 (which is what I have) is the darkest and I'd say that would suit a medium skin tone. Onto the packaging, I've been a big fan of Dior packaging since purchasing my mum some Dior lipsticks. I simply think their perfect. I love the pump applicator it's very convenient. The tube looks and feels luxurious but for Dior would you really expect anything less?

What is your favourite BB cream? 

What's On Your Nails Right Now?

Today is my dear friends 25th birthday! As a fellow lacquer lover I decided to ask her 'what's on your nails right now?' I asked her to send me a picture and she did not disappoint.

Happy Birthday Nat Nat!
On her nails today is O.P.I's Do You Lilac It? and the glitter tips are courtesy of a confetti like glitter by Essie called Jazzy Jubiliant. The perfect birthday manicure wouldn't you agree?

Are you a fan of glitter polishes? We'll just ignore the fact it's such a pain to remove!

An Ode To Weleda

Weleda is a brand my family has been using for years. In this post I'm going to be discussing the two most repurchased Weleda products. One of which is going through round 5 with another bottle being shipped over as I type.
Weleda Goodness
Weleda Revitalising Hair Tonic
This blend of ingredients claims to 'improve the supply of nutrients to the roots of the hair, promotes natural hair growth and maintains a healthy scalp'. My mother was recommended this product by another family member when she started to notice a difference in the thickness of her hair. She uses this daily. I know what you're probably thinking, 'doesn't using an oil every day make your hair greasy'. That's exactly what I first thought but it really doesn't! The oil (which is more watery) absorbs into the scalp very quickly leaving no trace of it behind. After using up the first bottle, results in my mums hair was clearly visible. Her hair looked healthier, thicker and in much better condition. Many bottles later, we both use it and my hair feels great. It feels stronger and looks noticeably healthier. Again with Weleda the price is very reasonable, under £10 for a 100ml bottle. I would definitely recommend giving this a try if winter has taken a toll on your hair.

Weleda Arnica Massage Balm
This massage balm is a must for every household, whether you suffer from sore limbs or arthritis, there will be a use for it. If you live with someone who is mad about playing sports, there is a high chance that you have had to endure the miasma of Deep Heat. Gosh that stuff is potent, it makes my eyes water. I have a brother who is a big sports fan so Deep Heat comes around every football season. However, this balm is much more effective at soothing sore limbs or working on muscle tightness. Arnica is known for its soothing properties and works well on any bruising. It is an effective oil to use on anyone who suffers from arthritis as it soothes the pain and a massage helps with inflammation. Not to mention a perfect post gym treat. The price is also very reasonable coming in at under £10.

Which Weleda products would you recommend?

Why blog?

So you've started a blog, welcome to 2008. Why blog now? Do people still read blogs? Thanks to instagram and twitter don't people just get all their information from pictures and in less that 140 characters? These are all some of the thoughts that came into my mind before I started my blog. Well, apart from having dreams of writing a Carrie Bradshaw-esque column, the real inspiration came from me just being sick and tired of reading the same thing. I started reading blogs a while back probably around 2011, it seemed like such a buzzing, creative community and I was instantly hooked. I had my favourite blogs which I had to read almost daily and I admired how they stayed so motivated and unique. I learned a lot from these early blogs, more than I have from magazines therefore making them lucrative. In the past couple months I have noticed that this creative individual group of blogs have meshed into one giant website. They almost all look similar and all report on the same products. It almost seems robotic. Now, don't get me wrong I don't begrudge these bloggers in fact I admire and applaud their success, I love the fact they have made a voice for themselves and have shown that us consumers are much more savvy than some brands and advertisers think we are. I just miss the personality in blogging.
You can sit with us.
I'm a big advocate for "don't judge a book by it's cover", its something I live by and wish more people did too. Within the blogging community there should be a "don't judge a blog by its numbers" motto. Blogging has turned into a business all about numbers, there's a strong emphasis on it and with some bloggers they see it as a race. Getting to X amount of followers in X amount of time seems like their goal all whilst spewing the same tired content. In an age of 'follow backs' and 'like for likes' honesty and authenticity in blogging is being lost. As well as the more established blogs, I love the smaller blogs who are just starting out, there's an innocence and excitement of where this blog could go (unless their in it for the numbers in which case I've lost interest).  

How does my blog fit into this? Well, I focus more on natural beauty, skincare and being yourself. Where I do love nail polish and have way too much of it, I wanted to add some thing more to game. My post about life after University has been one of my most popular. I think its because most people can relate to it and sometimes we just need reminding that we all go through similar struggles. I also wanted to write about how it's important to be unique and to be yourself, we don't want to be a generation of clones. 

The name of my blog is a little obscure, not exactly what you'd expect from a beauty blog. The name 'The Chronicles of Wasted Time' came from exactly that, it is a chronicle of how I 'waste' time. "Time you enjoy wasting, was not wasted"- John Lennon. I may take this a little too literal. Over the past few years I've been conscious about the time that has past, if I had started blogging when I first wanted to (but didn't because I was too reserved) who knows where I'd be? It's also inspired by one of Shakespeare's sonnets, excuse me but my inner geek is showing. 

There you have it, that's my two cents. I'd love to know what you think and what are your opinions on blogging.

5 Things I'd Tell My Teenage Self

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Things have been a little quiet on the blog front this last week, I've been a little poorly. As I lay here in my pyjamas and trying to enjoy my Easter eggs even though I can't taste a thing I thought I'd write this post. For the past few weeks at work I have spoken to a lot of teenagers. I work for quite a popular brand who are having a huge revival at the moment thanks to everything 90's being back in style. Where I have noticed they look and act a lot older than their years. Some even dress a lot better than I did at their age, the primary struggles are still the same. I thought I'd list a few things I wish I could go back and tell my teenage self and remind others.

Following the crowd?
  1. If you don't want to, don't do it. I'm not talking about revision or coursework here, that stuff you have to do. I'm talking about, for example, just because everyone else is going somewhere or doing something. If you don't want to, don't. No-one can make you. Don't just go with the flow just because everyone is. 
  2. It's OK to be a little different. We're all different. So you like different genres of music to your friends, don't hide it, share it with them. This was me in school I was a huge fan of the Red Hot Chilli Peppers when most people in my friend group couldn't see past Usher (don't get me wrong I love a bit of Usher, Confessions anyone?).     
  3. It's OK to spend time alone. It's perfectly normal not to want to spend time with people you can barely tolerate just because everyone else is. If you want to stay in, then do so. Or spend more time with people you truly find interesting. Not just because their the loudest.
  4. Voice your opinions. Gosh isn't is so annoying when everyone is agreeing and nodding along to the queen bee, even though she has no idea what she's going on about? Voice your opinions. Let people know you have one. Don't be afraid. I wish I had done this more, on a whole I didn't give a crap about what people thought about me. However, there were times where I was more reserved and now wish I hadn't been.
  5. It'll be over soon, is that how you want to be remembered? School doesn't last forever, most people will remember you by how you treated others. Be nice to everyone. Before you make a big decision just think to yourself, is this me? Take your time.
I could go on and on, but maybe I'll save some for another post. Expect a fashion and beauty version up soon. I think we forget as we get older how hard it was being a teenager. I'm 23 now and when I was a teen there was no Twitter or Instagram, MSN Messenger was the best social media we had, and even that was on AOL dial up. 

What are some of the things you would have told your teenage self.

Manicure Mondays - Maybelline Berry Stain

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Every year the Pantone Corporation's colour institute chooses the colour of the year. This year for 2014 the colour is 'Radiant Orchid'. "An enchanting harmony of fuchsia, purple and pink undertones.' Whilst perusing the aisles of Boots the other day I came across this offering by Maybelline. Maybelline Berry Stain, for me fits the bill of a 'radiant orchid'. It most certainly is more of a purple with pink undertones. Very flattering on the nails and perfect for spring. For a while I have been stuck in an Essie rut. Not a bad rut to be stuck in f.y.i. I thought their diffusion line had the best brushes and the best colour selection going. However, I am quite impressed with the brush on this Maybelline polish. A thick wide brush which made it was easy to apply, no mess and took only two coats to become opaque.
Maybelline Berry Stain.
The polish is extremely shiny even without the help of a topcoat. A good one to use if your in a rush. I can't comment on whether it does stay for 7 days as I normally get bored of a colour by then and tend to switch it up at around day 4. It has lasted 5 days with minimal chipping with a good base and top coat.

Have you tried any Maybelline polishes.

Empties #1

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This month I ran out of some of my favourite products. Some I can't bear to be without therefore I've already repurchased *cough pixiglowtonic cough*.

Clinique Take the Day Off Cleaning Balm (nearly empty)
I've probably only got a couple uses of this left, but I'm going to add it in anyway. I won't write too much about this as I have already reviewed it in depth here.  I will say that this little baby is a pain to get hold of, its constantly sold out. My search to repurchase this starts now. This luxurious balm is similar in texture to coconut oil, as it is solid at first but melts into a rich oil as soon as it touches your skin. It is perfect to use for facial massage as melts away make-up and daily grime effortlessly. Fragrance-free; it is suitable for most skin types. I can't rave about this enough.

Pixi Glow Tonic
My holy grail skin care product. Since I started using this my skin has been looking and feeling so much better. It's changed the way I look at toners. A full review here. This product is definitely worth the money, this bottle has lasted me over 4 months and it is gentle enough to be used every day.

Pulp Friction Body Scrub
Brilliant name, brilliant product. After working this body scrub into the skin it lathers up into a lovely foam. A unique, great smelling product everyone would enjoy using.

Revlon Lash Potion
I love Revlon mascaras. My favourites will always be Clinique mascaras and I rarely buy drug store ones but this offering by Revlon is truly beautiful. The wand is easy to use, not too big or small, makes application easy a mess free. It doesn't clump and with even one coat adds volume. I've really enjoyed using this and would definitely buy it again. Not to mention the packaging is so pretty.

Super Dr Nicholas Perricone Hyper Hydrator
I picked this up from Tk Maxx just after Christmas and have been using it almost everyday since. It was a bargain price and I have been keen to try a product by Dr Nicholas Perricone for a while now. It was successful at keeping my skin hydrated all day throughout the winter months. I very much enjoyed using this moisturiser, the scent was very pleasant and reminded me of holidays. Which was miles away from the grey and wet British weather we were experiencing at the time. I am disappointed the Super range has been discontinued and I wished I had purchased up another tub of this.

The Body Shop Vitamin E Overnight Serum in Oil

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I'm a big fan of facial oils, they make they biggest difference to my skin. I've already mentioned my love for the Antipodes Divine oil, but this is another oil I have been using in rotation. The Body Shop Vitamin E Serum in Oil, got my attention in store whilst repurchasing some favourites. In College I used the whole Vitamin E range, and particularly enjoyed the toner and moisturiser. I decided to give this a go as the 'serum in oil' hybrid intrigued me.

The Body Shop Vitamin E Serum-In-Oil
When I first applied this I was greeted with the signature Body Shop Vitamin E scent, suddenly I was 17 again. A trip down memory lane later, I was surprised with how quickly it absorbed into my skin and didn't leave me looking greasy. This product does what it says on the bottle, it is a serum in an oil. Therefore, you get the best of both worlds. Not to mention, if your extremely tired this is a go-to product as you can get the benefits of a treatment whilst saving valuable sleeping time. The Body Shop claim it is '8 hours beauty sleep for the skin'. I do have to admit after using this at night, when I awake in the morning my skin does look rested, replenished and feels very soft.

The best part about this product is that it is very affordable at £12 and The Body Shop are known for there generous deals. I think when I bought this there was a 40% off discount code flying around. It's also a brand which is available in most countries therefore everyone can benefit from this product.

I predict that very soon a lot of brands will be realising serum in oil hybrids. Are you a fan of The Body Shop products?

Soap and Glory Body Scrubs

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Slowly but surely I have worked my way through the entire Soap and Glory body care line. The body butters are some of the most nourishing I have ever tried. The body washes are a sensory treat. However my true love belongs to the body scrubs. They are some of the best scrubs around, for the price and size of product they can't be faltered. Not to mention they are constantly on 3 for 2 in Boots. Below are my top 3 favourites from the range.

Sugar Crush Body Scrub
I have to begin with the scent of this product. Now, I'm not very good at describing scents but I'll do my best. This smells good enough to eat, slightly reminiscent to those cola bottle one penny sweets. It's a fresh lime scent and amazing to use in the morning it really does awaken the senses, perfect for the summer time. On occasion I have been known to randomly open this have a sniff and then put it back. Out of all the soap and gory scrubs this is my number one as it has the perfect amount of grit to it. Enough to scrub away dead skin cells yet not too harsh that it leaves my skin red and sore.

Smoothie Star Breakfast Scrub
This scrub has undergone some repackaging, I have to say I did prefer the old style. Again, this smells divine. Almost good enough to eat, and believe me I have been tempted. The maple scent leaves me feeling hungry after use. I enjoy using this in the colder months as there is something comforting about the scent. However, it is equally a treat to use in warmer months. The texture of this is perfect to use either in the shower or bath, as the granules are equally distributed. Therefore, when you take a little out of the jar and rub it on the skin you can work a large area with a small amount. Other body scrubs are not like this and when you go to use it, most is oil with a few scrubby bits distributed sparingly, that's not the case with this.

Pulp Friction Foamy Fruity Body Scrub
Apart from this having the best name ever, it's also a great product. I love the fact it comes in a tube rather than a tub. It makes it easier to use in the shower and it reduces the amount of product wasted by going straight down the drain. This scrub is unique as it starts off as a conventional body scrub but the more you work it into the body it then lathers up and creates a luxurious foam. In terms of a body scrub texture it is more gentle and less abrasive than the two above. The scent of Pulp Friction is fruity, fig based and very pleasant; the classic Soap and Glory scent reminiscent of Miss Dior Cherie.

This may be the start of a Soap and Glory series. Are you a fan of Soap and Glory body scrubs?

Maybelline Fit Me Anti-Shine Stick

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I bought this concealer stick on recommendation by the lovely Kate from Ghostparties. She hailed this as the best concealer ever. Naturally, I went out later that day to buy it. I have been using this almost everyday for a while now and thought I'd share my views on it.
Maybelline Fit Me Anti-Shine Stick
The first thing that I was impressed with this product is texture. It feels almost velvety and blends into the skin very easily. The finish is almost flawless and covers imperfections with little effort. I use this as a conventional concealer after my base to cover any blemishes and redness. I've also found that this works well on its own. Usually in the mornings when I'm in a rush I just swipe this over any areas that need it and blend with my fingers. It's quick and effective. The only place I don't really use this is under the eye area, that's mainly because I have a concealer which I can't fault for that purpose. However, I don't see why it couldn't be used there. The shade is a good match for me and overall I am impressed with this product. Especially as it is a high street brand and I usually find that the shade selection isn't very grand.

Have you tried this product?

JASON Shampoo

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When it comes to shampoos and conditioners I try to buy ones which are silicone and paraben free. I find this works better on my hair. Shampoos containing silicones and parabens usually weigh my hair down and make it look greasier quicker. Over the past couple of years I have tried many different 'natural' shampoos and this is one brand I keep coming back to.
JASON hair care
JASON are a natural company which was established in 1959! They sell a range of products including skincare and body care. I can't say I have tried many of those, however their shampoos I've tried almost every single one. While mooching on feel unique one day I came across JASON shampoos and was intrigued immediately by the fact they contain no parabens, sodium lauryl/laureth sulfates or phthalates. I ordered one and the rest is history. Since then I have been trying every different shampoo they offer from the Super Shine Apricot (a personal favourite) to the Vitamin E shampoo. I like to have at least one bottle in my bathroom cabinet at all times as I know this shampoo I can trust especially when others have let me down e.g left my scalp dry.

When it comes to paraben free shampoos I have tried many brands. Some are very over priced and not worth it at all. There's a common preconception that 'natural' equals more expensive. However this is not the case with JASON shampoos. Firstly, the price is very reasonable especially taking into account the size of the product. They range from around £6.29 for 473ml. The only thing I've found with these are that they require a little more product to create a lather. The range they offer is also quite generous, your bound to find one to suit you hair type, from thickening and strengthening to completely fragrance free. They clean the hair well not stripping the hair leaving it dry. They are well worth a try especially if your thinking or ditching paraben and silicone laden products.

All JASON products were recently on 3 for 2 on feel unique. So naturally stocked up. Have you tried any products by JASON?

What The Blogger Taught Me. Part 1.

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I have to confess that I have probably learnt more about skincare, haircare and even healthy eating from blogs than any magazine. In this post I'm going to share a few things I have learnt from bloggers and their blogs.

Coconut Oil
Coconut is cheap and you most likely have a tub in the pantry. Now, I knew that coconut oil is great to use as a hair mask. I usually cover my hair in it and leave it over night, in the morning after washing my hair it's noticeably softer and shinier. What the bloggers have taught me is that coconut oil has many other uses. It can be used for cleansing, Caroline Hirons discusses this way better than I ever could so I'll link her post here. Coconut oil has many different uses, it works particularly well on dry cuticles.

I used to think toners were a useless step in skincare routines. I never really noticed a difference when I used them, so I just stopped. Then I heard about exfoliating and hydrating toners, suddenly it all made sense and now I never skip the 'toner' step (well, unless I'm really really tired). I've definitely noticed a difference in my skin since I started using toners such as the Pixi Glow Tonic and Caudalie beauty elixir.

Washing hair
I thought this is one thing I knew how to do. However after reading this post by Meg I knew I had to give it a go. Basically, it's an upside down hair wash. So, instead of using conditioner after shampooing, you condition first and then shampoo. Sounds strange and feels strange when your doing it. But honestly my hair has never felt softer and its quite bouncy. When you think about it it does make sense as the conditioner acts like a mini hair mask.

This is in capitals as before reading blogs I had no idea about mineral oil. I never heard of it in magazines. When I learnt about it I was shocked. I was shocked that it was an ingredient in most products and I was shocked how I hadn't heard about it before. Most companies use it because it is cheap, it has no skincare benefits whatsoever. The fact that it is so cheap to use but big companies think its justifiable to charge such extortionate prices for it (Eve Lom I'm looking at you) is mind blowing. Since I have stopped using products which contain mineral oil I have noticed my skin is thanking me for it. Out of all the things I have learned from blogs this is the one I'm most thankful for.

This could end up being a really long post so I'm calling this part one. What have you learned from blogs?

Life in Minature

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Miniature size products and sample size products always lure me in. The travel size products stand in Boots acts as a pick and mix. Not only are they convenient, but perfect for sampling a brand before buying a full size.

Ren Face Masks
I love face mask miniatures, as they can be quite costly. Most face masks make extravagant clams and it can be quite disappointing when you invest in a big bottle and it doesn't deliver. However both of these Ren masks are well worth the money and actually work. Results can be seen after using especially with the glycolactic mask, these they are well worth the price.

Moroccan Oil 
Moroccan Oil can be expensive especially for the full size bottle. I bought the smaller size about a year ago, its perfect for carrying around in my handbag or taking away with me. It has lasted a long time as only a small amount of product is needed to create smooth frizz free tresses. It doesn't weigh my hair down and the scent is quite pleasant.

Aesop Eye Make Up Remover
This is the perfect size bottle for an eye make up remover, ideal for taking away on holiday. This particular one by Aesop is oil based which means only a small amount on a cotton pad is needed, and requires no tugging at the eyes. It's gentle and effective at taking off mascara and even the most stubborn liner.

Nail Polish
I have a love and hate relationship with mini nail polishes. They are usually cheaper which I like, and who really finishes an entire bottle of polish? They usually go gloopy by then. I find that for most brands the brushes are not as good on the smaller bottles. This makes application messy and streaky. The Orly ones in particular are worth checking out, they have a wide range of mini polishes and the brushes are very good. Perfect for trying out 'on trend' colours, or more risky colours you wouldn't normally go for.

Are you a fan of mini products?

Distancing Friendships- BFF?

When I was at school a teacher once said. 'When you leave school your friendship group will immediately be cut in half and the older you get the numbers will continue to dwindle.' I thought, yeah right, what do you know...

During the course of growing up, we are faced with many challenges and changes in life such as parents divorcing and break ups. For the most part society and media report these moments. They help provide an idea in our heads as to what's an acceptable reaction when something like that happens. Whether it is to rebel or stay silent, it's pretty heavily documented in TV shows or films. What isn't so heavily documented is what to do when you've parted ways with a dear friend or friends? Now when your younger and in school if you have a falling out with a friend, there's usually a mutual awareness that something has happened and either you make up or move on. This is easier and the process is a lot quicker when in school because you see the person everyday so things either evolve or erupt quicker. But what do you do when your older and seem to just grow apart?

After school when you leave and all go separate ways it seems like a natural progression and one which you are prepared for so distancing friendships are part of the parcel. However, when you are adults you don't see it coming until you realise it all of a sudden, and then it can hurt more. You realise that even with all the social media and constant updates you haven't actually spoken to that person in a long time. In your twenties when you are starting to pave the way for your future and start making life decisions, things like jobs, partners and travel can get in the way. You grow up, and its only natural to feel like a completely different person. I feel like I have changed so much, even from when I started university let alone school.

I believe that certain people come into your life for just a little while, they make their impact and then leave again. Much like a relationship can. During this time you invest so much time into each other and help each other grow, until eventually you grow apart. In many cases there is no anger or a certain incident to blame, you just part ways. Its sad and silent. They don't recognise you any more and vice versa, it won't work if you try and act like you used to, so alas you must move on. It's natural to feel this way. And I think we all do at some point or another. Don't be afraid of it.
However, there will still be those people who even though you haven't spoken in a while, when you do it feels like you've never been away. So you talk for hours and hours. Those moments are magical and should be treasured.

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